When a couple gets divorced, it's not just the end of a marriage but the beginning of a new life for two people. These two people often have to re-learn how to be on their own and to separate their lives from each other. After years together, the emotions can be difficult for people to process as they move on to a new life. These emotions are just one of the things that can create stress for a divorcing spouse. Divorce legal issues, like a child custody dispute or arguments over property division, can also add undue stress.
Despite the stresses that often accompany divorce, it is possible for people to take some proactive steps to reduce their stress during the situation. Experts say that one way to do this is by limiting contact with a soon-to-be ex-spouse or an ex-spouse. Instead of contacting the ex-spouse in person, experts suggest email. This allows people to keep communications open, but keep emotions to a minimum.
If people do need to talk via the phone, people may want to consider changing their spouse's name to "co-parent" in their phone. This serves as a gentle reminder about why the relationship with that person is important.
Additionally, people are urged to keep extensive records about their divorce and child custody interactions. Tracking expenses and interactions with children can be important later down the line.
Finally, experts urge people to consider mediation. With the help of a mediator, California residents can come to an agreement about many of the legal issues they are facing. Instead of leaving these decisions up to a judge, people can take an active part in shaping their future. This can also save both time and money.
Source: The Huffington Post, "7 Small Things That Can Make Divorce A Little Less Stressful," Brittany Wong, June 9, 2015