California residents who have been through a divorce know what a stressful and emotionally draining experience it can be. But, there are things a spouse can do to make the experience less distressing. A national website recently published a collection of comments from various experts about the mistakes divorcing spouses commonly make. Avoiding these mistakes won't make divorce a pleasant experience, but it may make it less of an ordeal for everyone involved.
A divorce lawyer interviewed for the story said one of the biggest mistakes people make in a divorce is listening to advice from any source, without making any evaluations as to how knowledgeable the source may be. For divorce legal issues, it can be a good idea to get information from a qualified, neutral source, and not from a relative, your best friend or your car mechanic.
A parenting coach said one of the worst things a divorcing parent can do is bad-mouth the other parent in front of the children. Kids who hear this kind of negative talk tend to internalize it and interpret it to mean something is wrong with them, not the other parent. Restraining oneself from making disparaging comments in the presence of the kids is one of the best things a parent can do to minimize the trauma of divorce for the children.
A financial advisor reported that she often sees divorcing spouses fail to make a financial plan for their post-divorce lives. It can be hard to make difficult financial decisions while going through the emotional turmoil that accompanies the end of a marriage. That's why it's important to come up with a plan and a budget for the future.
Source: Huffington Post, "10 Common Mistakes People Make In Divorce (And How To Avoid Them)," Brittany Wong, July 29, 2015